Your Granny Forever Is Happily Divorced

Yes! It has been a minute -  again. I KNOW, I KNOW!!!
Only this time, I am back to stay - for real - with a new blogging schedule.

As I disclosed to you in previous posts, I had been a victim and a survivor of Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) aka Domestic Violence. I shared
some emotional times you will have to go back to view if you missed them.



Today, I want to talk about being happily divorced.
Sometimes, you have to say good-bye to everything you have to say hello to everything you're going to get. This also puts you in the space to do a few other necessary things, such as,

• cutting ties that keep you bound to harmful entities
• allow more than enough room to receive the replacements of what you said good-bye to
• a readiness to receive the replacements, and
• more than ready to utilize the replacements for higher good for yourself and for others

During the process of letting things go, I had to go back to the beginning of the relationship I share with the man I was married to in order to navigate to freedom. We both came from bruised childhood. The difference was, as I aged into adulthood, he did not. I purposely took ten long years working on being healed from the experiences of my childhood. I even separated myself from family members to lessen the outer noises so I could heal without bias.

Briere (2013) in When People Do Bad Things said, "Although our culture stresses accountability, independence, and free will, the fact that early life can affect later behavior makes it difficult to decide when, and to what extent, the behavior of a previously victimized person is under his or her control." As I put together pieces of puzzles to occupy my mind (and to remain safe) while planning my escape from my abusive ex-husband, I thought about what was the deciding factor that caused him to not work on being healed from his childhood. After all, he was just as deserving of being at peace as I was.

Whether he ever decides to be truthful about himself to heal, that is now up to him - not to us.
I am so happy to finally be divorced and moving on with my life.
It is my hope that all victims and survivors of abuse experience the same thing.

Stay tuned for the next post where I dive deeper into how my life has changed since recovering a life of abuse. 

References:
Briere, J. (2013). When people do bad things: Evil, suffering, and dependent origination. In A. C. Bohart, B. S. Held, E. Mendelowitz, & K. J. Schneider (Eds.), Humanity's dark side: Evil, destructive experience, and psychotherapy (p. 141–156). American Psychological Association. https://doi.org/10.1037/13941-007