Three Things That Helped Me Get Away From My Abusive Husband

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Circa 2019
As a Restoration Strategist, one of my main topics of recovering from is Domestic Violence.  I recently had someone to ask if I had personal experience.  The answer is  - YES!

I ran away from my abusive husband in April 2018.  It took a lot of research and strategizing on my part for what would be my best avenue of getting out safely.  Not only to get out safely, but to also make sure I was in an area that would support me best in my recovery.
Since getting out, I am healing quite well: I finished Grad school, restructured my business, made new connections, volunteer in my community, and a host of other positive things.

There are three things I suggest for those wanting to get out of an abusive situation:
  1. Make a plan - You MUST plan your way out.  Leaving without someplace else safe to go could be worse than where you already are.  Make sure you think about where you want to go, where you can thrive best, where could you go that would have the best resources for you to reestablish yourself, where can you go to get aid if you need help getting off your feet (some of you won't have any money because it is being controlled buy your abuser - so this is really important to consider).  There are so many things to think about before getting away.  If you don't have time to plan, call *911 IMMEDIATELY. Inform them they are your way out of a toxic situation and you need a safe place to go ASAP.
  2. Implement the plan - It's not enough to plan, but to have one and never use it is a great loss.  Put that plan into action.  You (and your children)  are worth the saving.  Deciding to stay for the sake of the children is exposing them to more abuse which in some states is considered a crime.  I know - why should the abused be punished?  Did you know in some states if the abused do not leave they will get charged with negligence of providing a safe place for the children? Something to think about when you have a plan of escape and decide not to use it.
  3. Follow up - Follow up with every action you performed in your plan.  Is there anything you left out?  Are there any other things you forgot to do?  Make sure to cover all bases including looking for medical and mental health attention once you get to safety for you and the children. 
The next post, I will go into further detail how each of these steps helped me get to safety and progress after a life of abuse.

Until then.............

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELVES...MENTALLY❣

Much love,
Granny 🍷🌺😘

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