There are so many who fall between the cracks and
get lost due to insufficient investments in their mental health.
This particularly happens in relationships more
often where one will tend to others so much they forget about themselves being
a part of the equation. As a result,
their mental health suffers. As a result
of that, their relationship suffers because now they are so mentally exhausted
they are no good to support themselves or anyone else.
My recent personal experience was dealing with
someone I love with traumatic childhood issues that continues to wreak havoc in
their adult years. As much as I tried to
support them, my efforts failed because they were not in the position to receive
my support due to not seeing they needed it.
Because of the tremendous amount of mental pain they were in and my
compassionate heart, I had immediate choices that needed to be made.
Begin
evaluations on your SELF rather than being so concerned with the way others
need to change to be a part of your circle. If you happen to know someone who is
insufficient in this area in their life, how can you support them when your
mental investments are low as well?
With this in mind, I had to counsel and remind
myself in the mirror (yes I still talk to
myself in the mirror - my favorite auditing system for my mental well being) that I knew what was going on, what it looked like and I
already knew what I needed to do to support the both of us. After checking myself in the mirror, I
had to start strategizing how to keep us safe.
The one thing I knew to do was get us safely home to
where we grew up. Our roots are
there. Everything about us is there.
When someone is at a place of no return mentally,
there are four things you can do to assist them: love them, support them within reason, keep
them safe as much as possible, and strategize the intervention needed to get
them the help that is required to get them restored. Once you are successful in getting the
intervention much needed, let them go.
The
hardest part in the whole situation is letting them go. It is a necessary thing to do for the both of
you to be healed.
Now that you have let them go, now what?
Become your own Super Hero. You’re worth it.
The journey does not end because intervention has
taken place. You need to seek
professional counseling as well to support your love for yourself and the other
person. It is imperative that you do so because you had some mental injuries that took place during this episode.
Here's the other reason to consider: if you do decide to allow the
other person back into your life after intervention is over, what are you
setting in place to keep the healing process going for the both of you when they come back?
Part of me dealing with this situation was to write a
poem:
Be
Your Own Superman
Please feel me and hear my heart.
I love you now and always will.
I always have loved you.
We need this time away from one another to
completely heal.
I want you to be the whole, healed, man you deserve
to be.
I want you to experience true happiness.
I know it’s hard to be Superman right now when
you’ve had to be that for everyone else since you were a boy.
For 30+ years, I’ve managed to support others
physically and mentally to their well being.
The one true love of my life happens to be the care
free bird needing domestication to get back to the nest of things so he can
truly be free.
You’re still my heart.
My one true love.
I wish you well.
I wish you free.
I wish you whole.
Time to stop taking care of everyone but yourself.
Time to be loyal to the one who really matters –
YOU!
Until next time........TAKE CARE OF YOURSELVES MENTALLY❣️
Much love,
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